We've taken on a lot, and somehow managed to stay in tact. Living life now as a family of 4!

I try hard not to swear on this blog, but sometimes, there just isn't a way to express yourself otherwise. The judge rejected our declaration of parentage for Rudi DESPITE THE FACT that we submitted ALL of the following: - our legal agreement (40 pages of legalese that says that Rudi was created for us with the help of Jay and Tara) - An affadavit from Jacob stating that he is the father of Rudi - An affadavit from me saying that I am the mother of Rudi - An affadavit from Jay saying he is not the father of Rudi, that Jake and I are the parents - An affadavit from Tara saying she is not the mother of Rudi, that Jake and I are the parents - the actual declaration of parentage itself - a letter from the fertility clinic stating that the embryo implanted in Tara is the biological material of Jake and I - Rudi's original birth certificate In addition to ALL OF THAT (which represents $1000s in legal fees, by the way) the judge wants to see a copy of the registration of b

Ok, what I really want to write about is my very complicated feelings about my first Mother's day as a mother but I feel like I can't dive into that topic without first acknowledging the response to my previous post. It went VIRAL! I've decided that is the most accurate term for what happened. As of today there have been 38,351 page views of that post, all due to people sharing on Facebook. Most of the views happened in the first 48 hours. That is AMAZING. I certainly did not expect it to travel like that. I thought maybe a few 100 people would see it and that would be that. Instead, the conversation about surrogacy continues :) Lots of people reached out, including a former surrogate who wanted to help, people who knew surrogates, and a few women who wanted more information. Incredible! And that's all I'm going to say about that for now :) So, Mother's day was last weekend. I had feelings about it. Not necessarily the ones I expected to have. All day Jake a